What to say on internet dating sites
It’s sad, but hardly surprising – the dating world can be quite unforgiving for most of us, able-bodied and disabled people alike.Naturally, the best way to avoid many of these issues is to either be honest and upfront about your disability in the first place on a mainstream site, or to place a profile on a specialised disabled dating site.But fear not as I talk you through how to showcase yourself so you have the best start to your online dating journey.Recent case studies on Tinder, where attractive disabled women put up profiles that avoided mentioning their wheelchair or the fact that they have cerebral palsy, have shown that hiding a disability often results in rejection.In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away.So it only seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too. Sometimes they know you better than you know yourself.
Read these helpful dating tips and you could be the busiest person on the block in no time.‘People have to imagine how they’ll fit into your life, so describing yourself as a “bookworm and internet addict” makes them feel they’d never see you,’ explains match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor.‘Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.’ Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.I’ve already expressed my argument for why in two posts: one on how critical it is to find the right life partner and how seriously we should take that quest, and another on why going to bars is a terrible life experience.The first step in ending up with the right person is meeting the right person, and for something so important in our lives, we’ve had for doing it efficiently and intelligently.
Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that.